Drumroll, Please...Announcing The Practice!

As we move through the final week of 2020, I can’t think of a better time to announce my new self-care subscription called The Practice! I told you a bit about it last week and thought it a good idea to give you a little demo, so you can test drive the basics of the program for yourself. I also want to give you a breakdown of what you will get when you subscribe.

As I mentioned last week, the practice is a self-development toolkit that combines practical ways to use the Enneagram, mindfulness, and self-compassion in your daily experience in order to truly thrive and create the optimal life and relationships you desire.

• The Practice is for anyone who wants to better understand themselves and become the absolute best version of who they are. It’s for those longing to deepen their level of self-awareness and lead their lives with intention and confidence. It’s for anyone who is ready to love and accept themselves as well as improve overall health and wellbeing, mind, body, and spirit.

• It’s a monthly subscription full of personalized meditations for enneagram type and targeted to help you cultivate more presence and grounding in your life. It also combines the power of writing and self-compassion to fine-tune your self-care regimen and soften that often harsh inner dialog that keeps us stuck. You’ll also have access to candid conversations with experts in their field in the wellness and enneagram world.

• I’d love for you to sign up for the waiting list now because let’s face it, New Year’s is right around the corner, and keeping those Resolutions can be tough! Yet 2021 holds so much hope and opportunity waiting to be harnessed. If you are like me, you need a plan and some continued support in order to achieve the personal goals you’ve wanted to meet year after year.

Here’s a breakdown of what you’ll receive each month in your subscription:

• A weekly guided meditation and self-compassion practice

• Daily journaling prompts

• Weekly “pep talk,” check-ins & support

• Monthly Zoom teaching with Enneagram and wellness experts

You’ll also gain access to nine unique meditations designed for each Enneagram type (yes, you’ll get all nine!).

I wanted to give you a little taste of what it will be like, so here is a link to test drive one of the meditations. After you listen to the meditation, I want you to stay in that quiet space to reflect on this journal prompt: My biggest takeaway from 2020 was ____________ (write for 10-30 minutes).

If you sign up in the first month, you’ll get a locked-in price of $14.99/month as opposed to $19.99. And this is just the beginning. I’ve got so much more material that will drop later in the spring so get excited!

You are meant to thrive, not merely survive. This is your opportunity to tap into a more vibrant, unhindered experience. I can’t wait to share this journey with you. We officially kick it off Monday, January 4th. Click here to be the first to know.

Love & Gratitude, 

Katie

I've been dying to share this with you

I sincerely hope you are taking good care of yourself as we move through the holidays and wrap up 2020. It’s been a trying year for all of us, yet I feel a sense of anticipation stirring in my bones. Why? For several reasons, but namely, because I believe we have gone through the crucible of loss and pain that inevitably invites us to wake up.

I believe suffering has the ability to truly transform us into more compassionate, more spiritual beings. If we let it that is.

Not only that, but 2020 has been an invitation to take a long, soft look into the eyes of mental health as a more normalized and necessary conversation, and I’m so here for it.

So much so that I’ve created a really special gift for you.

Over the last decade of research, client work, and navigating the peaks and valleys of my own emotional journey, I’ve been creating a program I call The Practice.

The Practice is a specialized tool kit designed to support your journey of self-development and growth. It’s meant to take the guesswork out of self-care and is based on the premise that whatever we practice we improve. The Practice combines mindfulness and self-compassion with the Enneagram to help you achieve the lasting transformation you desire.

So, why mindfulness? Mindfulness exercises such as meditation are scientifically proven to reduce stress and anxiety, improve sleep and overall functioning, and bring awareness to what’s happening moment to moment so we can choose to consciously respond to life’s circumstances rather than react out of automatic, self-defeating patterns.

What about self-compassion? I’ve learned first-hand we simply can’t thrive if we’re constantly working against ourselves. Shame-based striving won’t cut it because we’ll constantly be hustling for our worthiness as opposed to growing from a place of self-acceptance and love. We need true self-compassion which teaches us to treat ourselves like we would a dear friend or family member in need. It’s only from this place of unconditional, loving-kindness that we can effect transformational change.

Finally, why the Enneagram? The modern Enneagram of personality is the most powerful tool we have for deeper self-understanding and growth. It helps us understand more about our personality and deeper character structure, shining a light on limiting automatic patterns and beliefs that have been operating within us for years. As we wake up to our unconscious thoughts, feelings and behaviors, we are able to practically apply Enneagram’s wisdom in our lives and choose something life-giving and true.

Quite simply, The Practice will give you the tools you need to retrain your brain and body and actually befriend yourself in a way that leads to deep and lasting change by supporting processes such as resilience, integration, and motivation. Along the journey, you’ll experience the wholeness and freedom you seek.

I can’t wait to officially share this with you in early January! Stay tuned next week as I am giving away a free demo so you can take it out for a test drive.

Until then, I hope you and yours have a safe and very Merry Christmas.

The Holiday Edit: 5 of My Favorite Things (Discounted!)

If there is something I hear from clients like a broken record, it’s this: I need tools.

I love hearing this because I’m a firm believer that the reason we don’t see the progress we’d like in therapy is that we lack ongoing support outside the therapy office. Whatever we practice we improve, however, we often get in the habit of leaving all the insight and growth we experience in session, well, right there in the session.

You wouldn’t expect to go to the gym twice a month and see the results you desire without any additional changes made. Quite the contrary. Our results depend on diet, metabolism, consistency, accountability, and mindset just to name a few.

And so it is with our emotional fitness. We need tools: practices and resources to bake into our daily lives that support the change we seek.

I know, I know. We are in the 11th hour of 2020 and the tendency is to coast right past the finish line into the new year (especially this one!).

So, I want to share my top five resources with you to help you finish strong and wake up on New Year’s feeling clear and ready for the dawn of a new day. I don’t know about you, but I’ve got some big goals and desires!

Without further ado, here are my 5 favorite wellness resources to help us round this corner:

1) Meditation Apps: Mindfulness practices like meditation are my favorite way to stay grounded on a regular basis. There are endless health benefits that I don’t have space here to share, yet in a general sense, they are the best way to grow the inner observer inside that allows us to connect to more self-awareness and calm. If you are looking for a way to understand yourself in a deeper way and gain more clarity and confidence, it’s the perfect time to start a meditation practice. My two tops are the Waking Up App as well as Headspace.

2) Streaming Exercise memberships: With COVID-19 continuing to spike and so many gyms closing their doors until it’s safe to reopen, our need for movement is greater than ever. We must not let up on exercise just because we’re in the home stretch of 2020 and there’s a solid sugar coma waiting at every turn. In fact, depression and anxiety are spiking right along with COVID cases. Physical exercise is crucial for us to process unruly emotions and regulate stress. I’ve been a Tracy Anderson method fanatic for over a decade now, so her streaming membership is my go-to. Another favorite is Mellisa Wood Health for amazing yoga classes and more. Both offer free trials!

3) The Enneagram Masterclass: My friend Beatrice Chestnut, author of The Complete Enneagram, and her business partner Uranio Paes, have created a brilliant masterclass chock full of Enneagram teaching and tools for transformation. It’s a fabulous gift idea for your eager enneagram buddies too! Use code KATIEG75 at checkout for $75 USD off. 

4) Fathoms: An Enneagram Podcast:  If you are an Enneagram enthusiast who wants to take your knowledge to a deeper level, this is a beautiful place to start. My friends, Dr. Drew Moser, Seth Abram, and Seth Creekmore, combine forces to journey beyond information and share tools for transformation.

5) Rediscovering You: Last but definitely not least is an online course by Onsite called Rediscovering You. Onsite is a phenomenal wellness organization right outside of Nashville. I went through their flagship program, Living Centered, back in 2010 and can honestly say it changed my life on many levels. This year they have developed a six-week self-guided digital course to help you break the cycles that keep you stuck so you can move forward with a renewed sense of clarity, freedom, and direction. Registration is open now and the course begins on January 4th.  Use code KATIEG at checkout for an additional $100 off the already reduced price of $497!

Alright my friends, I hope these will serve as an extra nudge this season to give yourself the gift of self-care in a time we need it most! I’d love to hear your feedback as well! You know where to find me :)

P.S. I am beyond thrilled to add a #6 to the mix in early January! Stay tuned for a brand new resource full of therapeutic tools in just a few weeks!

How Mindful Movement Will Keep You Grounded This Holiday Season

Today you’re in for a treat! I’m bringing my pal Koula Callahan, master yoga instructor and speaker, on the blog to share why movement, namely yoga, is incredibly powerful and important for us to practice as we move through the holiday season and beyond. If you’ve always wondered what all the fuss is about—and why yoga is so effective—today is the day you’ll get some answers.

Let’s dive right into my chat with Koula!

(1) Katie: So how does movement help regulate/process emotions?

Koula: Movement is a critical part of the healing journey. So many of us forget to incorporate and listen to our bodies as we try to process emotions and hardships and we wonder why we keep feeling stuck. There’s a reason though—our entire life’s story is stored in our cells and in our body tissues. And each part of the body shares with our brain the responsibility of memory. In fact, our bodies store more information than our brains do. So if we try to process our emotions only by accessing our brains, we miss out on an enormous amount of “data” stored in our bodies that actually helps us more than our brains do. Movement helps us tap into that reservoir of “data” and develop a more integrated approach to processing emotions.

(2) Katie: Why yoga? What’s all the fuss?

Koula: Gosh. Yoga is so freaking helpful for so many reasons. Aside from being a killer workout (long lean muscle development!!), it’s the only movement practice that focuses on presence and awareness first. A lot of people think that they “aren’t good at yoga” because they aren’t flexible. That is so not true. It’s not about flexibility, it’s not about strength, it’s not about whether or not you can touch your toes. The physical practice of yoga is all about connecting with yourself and bringing the mind, body, and spirit into union with one another. Focusing on presence and awareness from moment to moment makes the practice a moving meditation. I think that’s what’s hardest about it. You have to face the truth of what’s really going on with yourself. And you also get killer abs and triceps :)

Katie: Well you are quite the inspiration there (pictured above!!) 

(3) Katie: Why should we be practicing yoga this holiday season?

Koula: Yoga reduces anxiety and stress, helps us sleep better, regulates our hormones, flushes out our organs, boosts our immune systems, etc, etc, etc. The benefits are tremendous. Honestly, though, I suggest practicing yoga with consistency over the holiday season because it keeps you grounded in a time when everything seems chaotic. This simple, practical tool is available to everyone to help us stay calm and balanced regardless of what might be going on in our lives or families.

(4) Katie: Speaking of COVID, what if we’re a bit gun shy to go to an actual yoga studio with cases spiking right now?

Koula: Most studios have a virtual option for their in-studio classes. If there’s a studio you love, check their website for virtual options. There are also digital class series that major brands offer — I like Alo Yoga and Peloton’s virtual yoga classes.

(5) Katie: Why is yoga so important to you as a teacher and participant? How did you come to find it?

Koula: My yoga practice has been the through-line of my life as an adult. It’s the tool I rely on most to “self-regulate” my emotions regardless of what’s going on around me. When I come to my mat, it forces me to get present and simplify things that I have made way too complex in my life. When sh*t hits the fan in my life, my yoga mat becomes my little sanctuary where I can pay attention to how I feel and nourish myself. I really do notice when I go a few days without it — my sleep is off, I’m more irritable and less kind to myself. I love teaching for many reasons, one of which is what I learn from my students and their willingness to show up fully. It’s beautiful to experience the sense of connection that a yoga class creates and it really does fill me up when I get a chance to teach. To be a good teacher I believe I have to be a student first, and I’m grateful for what each one of my students teaches me.

Thank you, Koula! You have enriched my life and so many others with your passion and ability.

For more about Koula, follow her on Instagram @koulacal. 

Well-Spoken: Your Secret to Self-Care During the Holidays

Self-care during the holidays, especially in 2020, may seem a bit out of reach. With kids home, wonky work schedules, and the limitations we all face, your only option may be to let it slide and just call it a day...or year.

As tempting as that may seem, I want to suggest we all have a responsibility to practice true self-care during the holidays. It will likely be what allows us all to finish strong and have grace and compassion for ourselves and others.

This might sound a bit dramatic due to confusion around what true self-care really is. With that said, I’d like to share my thoughts on self-care and how we can create space for it amidst the chaos of the season.

Unfortunately, society has taught us a version of self-care that falls drastically short in terms of actually promoting deep care and restoration. It makes sense to me that many of us have lost hope in it or see it as indulgent and even selfish. Spa treatments, retail therapy, and wine nights to take the edge off might appear to work temporarily, however they fail to support our process in any lasting change. They can also get really expensive! Don’t get me wrong, I’m a huge proponent for pampering and celebrating, yet we need to be clear about the fact that these are not the same as self-care.

So if these self-care imposters temporarily boost our spirits (or appearances) yet leave us feeling just as empty as before, don’t you think it’s time we take a deeper look at what real self-care looks like?

Life continues to present us with challenges, especially throughout the holidays as expectations run high and certainty—low. We need a brand of self-care that will help us stay present as opposed to escaping our lives—one that will connect us to more compassion, energy, perspective, balance, and grace in order to move through the tough times and even thrive amidst the chaos.

I believe self-care is a process of befriending yourself. Much like self-compassion, it’s showing yourself the heartfelt care and support you’d show a loved one in need. It’s learning to speak to yourself with a softer tone. It’s developing practices that promote connection rather than isolation.

If self-care starts with befriending yourself—speaking kindly to yourself—and grows from there to a practice of bringing balance and restoration to the mind, body, and spirit. 

The initial work of self-care then becomes what I like to call “kind conversations.” It’s speaking to yourself with a gentle tone instead of a harsh one. It’s telling yourself those things you need to hear and becoming more and more aware of the automatic dialog happening in your head. It’s starving out the inner critic that keeps us stuck in scarcity.

I’ve got great news: the Enneagram is a valuable tool to help you quiet that inner critic and flip the dialogue. 

If you aren’t quite sure what you need to hear, I’ve got some ideas...nine specifically.

Type 1: You are good! You’re doing such a great job.

Type 2: You are loved and chosen just for who you are. Your needs matter.

Type 3: You are loved and valued for being you. There’s nothing you could do to change that.

Type 4: You are seen and known for who you are. You are special.

Type 5: Your needs are important. It’s okay for you to be comfortable.

Type 6: You are safe and secure. You can trust yourself.

Type 7: You are taken care of. The present moment is a safe place for you to be. 

Type 8: Other people can be trusted. You will not be betrayed.

Type 9: Your presence matters in this world. Your voice needs to be heard!

Take these type-specific messages and build out some kind conversations from there.

So, my Dear, next time you make up a story in your head that there’s simply no time for self-care, remember that self-care isn’t about taking time out, it’s taking time back. Kind conversations will only build a strong self-care foundation and make your time this holiday more special...and sweet.