Discover Love through the Enneagram: A Valentine's Event

Ah, Valentine's Day.  I see you right around the corner, in all of your pink and red Hallmark wonder.  It certainly can sneak up on you, or, dare I suspect, perhaps you tend to ignore it??  It can certainly be a tricky day for many!

Have you thought much about what you’re going to do?  Well, either way, I’ve got you. I’ve put together a brand new and interesting twist on it this year…and who knows? It might even leave a sweeter taste in your mouth than before!

Come celebrate love with me this Valentine’s season in a way that’s meaningful, fun, and memorable.  You heard me! Bring your special someone to a Valentine’s event you don’t want to miss.  We will unlock the relational secrets of the Enneagram to help you connect on a deeper level over a delicious meal at the stunning City Club in Downtown Nashville.  

Here’s the deal…

✨ What to Expect:

• An Intro to the Enneagram: Gain a baseline understanding of the powerful personality and character typing system and its 9 core types.

• Type-Based Connection Points: Engage in interactive exercises designed to highlight how your Enneagram type shapes your relationships.

• Love Languages by Type: Learn how to express and receive love in ways that truly resonate.

• Compatibility Insights: Explore the dynamics between types and how they can spark or strengthen romance.

• Fun & Festive Atmosphere: Enjoy delicious themed food, drinks, music, and opportunities to mingle with new, like-minded people.
  

💖 Perfect For:

• Couples seeking to deepen their bond

• Couples seeking to better understand the motivating fears and  desires of their partner

• Couples who want to learn more about the Enneagram together

• Couples who’d rather have dinner than go to therapy (Thank me later;)
  

📅 Date: Saturday, Feb. 8, 6-8:30pm

📍 Location: Nashville City Club, 200 2nd Ave S, Nashville

🎟️ Tickets: $175/couple + Dinner & drinks

Unlock the power of the Enneagram to create the relationships you’ve always dreamed of. Love is in the air…are you ready?

Reserve your spot now!

This is Your Year!

I’ve been itching to say these words for awhile now: HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Whereas tangibly nothing is different and the clock just rolled over as it  does every December 31st, what does seem to change is our mindset—how we approach time.

There’s a stirring in the air, a blank slate if you will, and yet nothing has really changed.  Interesting isn’t it?  

I love what Meister Eckhart said, “Be willing to be a beginner every single morning.” A new year presents the invitation to begin again. I believe every morning presents the same life-giving invitation as well. It’s an opportunity to live wholeheartedly, with purpose and curiosity. It’s the opportunity to step into your God-given shoes of worthiness no matter what is achieved, accomplished, or lost.  

You are the hero of your own journey. In every single good story, the hero is met with upending challenges that test belief, identity, and most of all, hope. And yet you, the hero, have the opportunity to begin again, every single day, with fresh vision and commitment.  

I’d love to be your guide this year in my newsletter.  You can expect to gain short, practical insights and opportunities every Tuesday that make it just a bit easier to show up for yourself—and be with yourself—in a courageous and loving way.  And of course, it’s forever steeped in the Enneagram!

Over the next few weeks, I'll share details about some other ways to feel truly supported and always evolving in 2025, including:

• 1:1 Enneagram Coaching

• Enneagram Couples half and full-day intensives

• Enneagram Mastermind Series starting up in March

• The Experiential Book Club starting up in February

• Enneagram in the Workplace: Team workshops and intensives

Last but not least, I’d love for you to join me in my monthly subscription program called the Practice, if you’re interested in creating structure and accountability as you embark on the goals and intentions you’ve set for yourself this year.  It’s an online toolkit that combines practical ways to use the Enneagram, mindfulness, and self-compassion in your daily experience as well as connect to a community of like-minded folks.  

Wherever you decide to join me, I want you to know how grateful I am to be  a part of your wellness journey.  It’s such an honor! 

I’ll leave you with a question:

If you continue on the self-development path you are on, where would you  like to be a year from now? What does your life look like? What’s different?  The same?

I’d love to hear your answers!  Drop me a line if you’d like.

Alright,  friends!  It’s showtime…

Palate Cleanser

Happy New Year!

We’re doing it! We’re about to cross over the threshold of 2025, showing up for ourselves all along the way.  Time is a totally different beast after journeying through cancer treatment and recovery these past 3 years.  I don’t take a single day for granted.  I also cherish you, my community, and family more than ever.  After what felt like my whole world being swallowed up by health for those last several years, it’s been truly amazing to have more presence as a mom, a wife, a friend, and a therapist.  

So, 2025 marks some welcomed endings and exciting beginnings!

That said, there’s always the temptation to bite off more than we can commit to when considering New Year’s resolutions.  Like I’ve said before, I’m convinced humans choose extremes over balance more days than not. We go all in, sink or swim, only to wake up a week later in too deep and gasping for air.  

So let’s ease into it. Let’s hit the palate cleanse. Let’s listen to the gentle rhythms of our desires, our longings, our needs. Let’s partner with ourselves from a place of self-compassion, like we would a loved one we believe in and want to support. Let’s speak to ourselves with kindness and curiosity, turning down that harsh inner critic that keeps us small and hustling for worthiness. Let’s breathe more—slower and deeper than usual.  I’m convinced we could all use a return to the breath and the body as a way of being present.

Let’s start small. And from that place of stillness and silence, we begin to etch out the tiny, two-degree shifts of growth and expansion that over time, create big breakthroughs. It’s often helpful to partner with a professional in order to gain greater support and accountability. If you’re looking to use the Enneagram as a part of your 2025 self-development, I’d love to help make that happen.  You’re the expert at you, and I’ve got a detailed roadmap to get you from where you feel stuck to where you long to be.  

No matter what you want to create in your life this year, I hope you’ll continue to journey with me.  I’ve got some exciting stuff coming your way that I can’t wait to share.  

In the meantime, do a little dreaming…a little playing.  It’s time to let your true self take the wheel.  She’s ready!  

A Christmas Letter to You

I have a hunch you have a lot going on this week. With Christmas tomorrow and New Years just around the bend, many of us are traveling, gathering, and hopefully…connecting.  

I’m reminded of how lonely this time of year can be as well.  I’ve had many seasons of life where the holidays were, very truly, bleak.  So I can’t help but write you today and check in.  As an Enneagram type 4, that sensitive ache is never too far off, for better or worse.  I say yes to the ache, though.  Without it, I forget how fragile and thin life’s veil is.  I learned that big time with my cancer diagnosis.  

Interestingly, I feel more connected to you as I connect to my own human frailty. This is why the practice of self-compassion is so beautiful and spacious. It invites our pain and suffering to have a voice, knowing that this is the connective tissue of this being human.  It doesn’t shut that voice out  in the cold, though. It leans in, curiously, with kindness—so as to alleviate that felt pain and loneliness. It says, “I see you, friend.  I see your pain—the weight of your heavy burden—and I love you no matter what.  I’ll stay awhile with you.”  

This season, consider someone in need.  Who might be alone?  Who may be hurting?  As you enter into the spirit of the season, invite them there with you, even in the prayer chamber of your heart.  What a powerful message we send to the world as we create space in our hearts for the ones who are broken…We overcome scarcity with generosity—lack with abundance.  

I pray this week, you would hear more love than noise, see more light than sorrow, feel more joy than fear.  In the quiet hours of the morning, I pray that you sense a palpable belonging.  

Merry Christmas, Love.

How to navigate grief through the holidays

Grief can feel thick as mud for so many throughout the holidays.  The exaggerated background of “merry and bright” can push unrealistic expectations on us to be something we’re not.  But for those who have lost loved ones, experienced drastic devastation, or merely find themselves in a life they never wanted, this  pressure can feel unbearable.  

It’s also worth noting that depression runs rampant around the holidays. It tends to be a reminder of the heavy lack we carry around from day to day.  There is such a fine line between grief and depression.  So first, let’s unpack that…

We know they are look-alikes.  Both involve intense sadness and even  despair.  Grief, however, is the normal and appropriate response to a great loss, often the death of a loved one.  Whereas they share several characteristics such as heightened emotions, fatigue, appetite disturbances, loss of pleasure, and inability to enjoy things, they are not the same.  A big contrast is depression is usually marked by a tendency to isolate from  others with little or no experience of pleasure.  The grieving person usually stays connected to others through the process and hopefully experiences pockets of joy or pleasure along the way.  

Something I learned from the grief guru himself, David Kessler, is that grief must be witnessed—loved one(s) hopefully walk alongside and see this pain integrating into our lives so we can process it better.  

There are five main stages of grief:  Denial, anger, bargaining, sadness, and acceptance.  Here’s the catch though, grief is complex and not linear.  For all you type A’s out there, beware of trying to grieve neatly.  It won’t happen.  It’s messy, cyclical, and much like whac-a-mole.  

One day we can be fairly poised, the next mad as hell, and the next denying anything’s actually happening, knee deep in that hidden tin of Aunt Susan’s peppermint bark.   

As you can imagine, the real power lies in the acceptance piece.  When we are able to simply allow what’s coming up emotionally and let it move through us, we can access acceptance more quickly.  After all, the word “emotion”  is mostly comprised of the word “motion.”  That said, we must allow them to come up and move through us as they are created in our bodies.  If we don’t do this, we create bigger problems down the road.

So how do we grieve what used to be?  The lovely life you’d grown accustomed to? The lifestyle and rituals you carved out over the years?  How do you make sense of this new normal?

By assigning meaning to it.  

We must appropriate purpose to our grief.  Eventually, we must be the hero in our grief story as opposed to the victim.  This takes time. David Kessler actually built out the grief process to include meaning as the sixth stage.  How powerful is that?   

Let your grief work for you and create deeper, richer meaning in your life right now.  Your shock is appropriate, your tears are precious, your anger—valid.  We are all on this spiritual journey together as we become more real through our pain, especially during this season. 

P.S. AND…Just like Mr. Rogers’ mother told him when responding to scary news, “Look for the helpers.” If you need a safe space to process and grieve,  I’d love to support you on your journey.