Get Out of Your Own Way by Setting Intentions
Question: Do you ever get frustrated because you’ve got a desired outcome in mind and can’t for the life of you make progress towards it?
If your answer is a resounding “Yes!” you are not alone, my Dear.
I struggle with this scenario far too often, so much so that it lands me in a cycle of self-doubt, discouragement, and often…shame.
“If I were better or more disciplined, this wouldn’t be an issue. If I were more like (insert the name of one of my rockstar friends currently crushing it) I’d be just fine.
Oh, man. Well, perhaps.
But if that were the case and we were someone different, we may risk the biggest catastrophe of them all— If you were just like everyone else out there “crushing it,” you’d be living their dream, not your own.
I’m in the throes of prepping for a workshop called “Enneagram in Action” this Friday.
While I’ve been a part of workshops and conferences leading up to this, I’ve never actually created my own, with fresh content, and registration promo, and all the itty bitty details that make an event like this roll out smoothly.
Needless to say, I’ve been humbled as I’ve had to put other parts of my life on hold, parts I’m not used to missing…you know, like free time and Netflix (The CROWN though…!!!)
Here’s what I’m learning and what I want to support you into as you embark on those burning dreams and desires brightly flickering in these young days and weeks of 2018.
In order to experience your desired outcome, a laser sharp focus must pave the way. If this sounds obvious, stay with me.
By the Grace of God Almighty and some act of Congress, I’ve managed to get to this point feeling highly ADD while pursuing a whole lot of strewn out interests. I’ve always managed to have about ten pots stirring. Quite honestly, I’ve been proud of it.
Guess what? Year after year I end up in the same place, in that cycle we talked about earlier. It’s not necessarily a bad place, just one that is a pale shade of the florid landscape I long for. This is not me beating up on myself, this is me being entirely too scattered.
My husband often (lovingly) calls me “a walking contradiction.” He remarks, “You’ve got all these great ideas and beliefs in your head and somehow manage to fill your time up with, hmm, I’m not quite sure?” I laugh out loud.
If you’ve ever felt like a walking contradiction, I’ve got some good news: setting intentions and applying a bit more focus might just change up your game, and at least, get you out of your own way.
As my motivational crush, Tony Robbins says, “Where energy flows, focus goes.”
So if you and I are expending a certain amount of energy split four ways into different projects, guess what? The level of focus applied to each one will be pretty tepid, if not weak.
Let’s do it differently:
1) Step back and decide which project or desire burns the brightest. What would most benefit you and those around you NOW?
2) Once you’ve identified that, it’s time to let the pressure and energy up from the other, less pressing ones, and move into some concentrated focus on just the one.
3) What are your intentions for this dream or desire?
What do you want to create and why? Setting intentions every day in a specific direction is clutch because it starts the flow of energy and focus into powerful motion. Stop to set an intention as often as you need or whenever you feel yourself feeding distraction. ( i.e. “Today, I am building out the bones of my book proposal. Write it down or speak it out loud. )
4) Visualize your desired outcome, often.
Professional athletes do this; performers do it too. Visualization is powerful because your brain doesn’t know the difference between these mental scenarios and reality. As a result, brain pathways are created in favor of your desired outcome, making it more likely to recreate in real life. Mic drop. I know….
I really want to hear how all this sits with you. What do you long to achieve? Does letting go of other projects or goals in order to do so feel irresponsible? Or weak? I get it.
I promise though; there will be time for other desires to take shape and the momentum you create as you arrive at your first desired outcome will likely carry you into a favorable pace for the next one on your list.
As always, I’m here if you need a little extra nudge. Bringing a guide on board - creating a team - is just another way of building out even more intention and focus.
This stuff lights me up…you know where to find me. :)
Love & Gratitude,