So You Think You're a Writer? (I couldn't agree more)

You are creative.

I’ll take that one step further and deem you a writer…if you want to be, that is. Sure, some of us live out of that space more than others, but we’re all born with this glorious capacity to make up stories. It’s what sets us apart from animals.

Creativity, namely writing, has been a huge part of my healing journey along the way. It’s helped me step into my truest self, slowly chipping away bits of the imposter that tends to hold me back from wholehearted living.

I stole that phrase, “wholehearted living,” from Brené Brown. She defines it this way:

“Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It means cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wake up in the morning and think, no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough. It’s going to bed at night thinking, Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid but that doesn’t change the truth that I am worthy of love and belonging.” (p. 10, Daring Greatly).

Technicalities aside, let’s look at this invitation to live from a place of worthiness and how it ties into your destiny as a writer. (Yes, I just dropped the “d” word”).

If we are called to live beyond fear—beyond scarcity—and truly thrive, guess what? We’ve got to get creative! We get to wake up to our desires and intentionally cultivate them each day out of a place of worthiness and courage. How do we do this? I believe we do this through writing.

There is a mysterious and powerful exchange—a contract if you will—that happens between having a desire or thought and writing it down on paper that is inexplicable, yet necessary. By writing down your desires and all that surrounds them, you send a message to the universe that you are, indeed, awake and paying attention. Perhaps you are even ready to receive.

Don’t worry, there’s no pressure to get published or share it with another eyeball. This is about you and your process…not a hunt for approval.

In fact, go ahead and forget about any preconceived notions you have about being a writer. Moody, quirky, good at grammar, hangs out with deep thinkers who wear black all day at coffee shops, drinks more whiskey than Hemingway, is unstable, and makes very little money but doesn’t care.

Hogwash.

Instead, qualify the writing process two ways: imperfect and vulnerable.

Courage requires both.

Living your life fully alive does too.

I believe we actually must write. Why? Because our life and deep joy depend on it. You and I have the agency to change and write a new story about who we are and what the world is all about. We don’t have to stay in victimhood. We are called to write a new chapter constantly. This, my dear friend, is very good news.

Need a stronger nudge? Check out The War of Art, by Steven Pressfield. It’s the Holy Grail of all the books I’ve read on the creative process. I discovered this book on a visit to NYC back in 2005. Despite being a slow reader and met by all the zippy distractions of the city, I managed to devour the bulk of this book on a park bench somewhere in the West Village one highly-caffeinated afternoon. Thank me later…

Okay, I’ll leave you with a journaling prompt:

If failure was not an option, one thing I’d love to do is .


Love & Gratitude,

Katie

P.S. Stay tuned for a very special Writing, Enneagram, and Yoga event coming in Feb. 2020! Details on that dropping any day now.

How to Write your Own Success Story

How do you define success?  Most people do with two usual suspects on the scene: wealth and power.  

If that’s your definition, guess what?  Great!  That is… if that's  how you’ve chosen to write your success story…

I’m struck by how few people call into question their personal version of success.  We do it all the time with our health, our relationships, and our political preferences.   For example, if something in your diet is causing a strange reaction or doesn’t taste good, chances are you steer clear of that something in the future.  Or if a relationship feels toxic or disrespectful, you’d likely address the issue at hand, or, even part ways after awhile if it gets bad enough.  

Hopefully, at some point along the way we call into question what no longer aligns with our values and ceases to work for us.  This is what showing up and advocating for ourselves looks like. 

After all, as humans, we have the distinct freedom and responsibility to write and revise our stories over time.  It’s what sets us apart from animals.  

So why do we hold so tightly to that narrow definition of success?  Besides, some of the most successful people I’ve ever known don’t measure theirs by a bank balance or a Kardashian-esque social media following.   Instead, they make waves in far more lasting, impactful ways.  

I believe the litmus test for success is based on character rather than clout. I also believe we get to define our own version of success based on the person we’re becoming.  When was the last time you took inventory of your definition? If it’s been awhile, perhaps it’s time to revisit.  After all, with age comes wisdom (we hope) and often shifting values.  If in your 20’s and 30’s success looked like that big job on Wall Street or a record deal with a major label, perhaps it  shifted to meaningful relationships or creative expression in your 40’s and 50’s.  Who knows?  Well, you do…

Here are a few pillars to build your new success story around.  Push them around.  Color them in a bit. 

1. Health: Our health is the foundation of all other functions in life.  Life is a much better place when we feel good.  I’m not only talking about physical health, but emotional as well as spiritual.  

2. Contentment: The ability to cultivate contentment despite our circumstances is true badassery in my book.  The secret sauce in this recipe—gratitude.  

3. Self-Awareness: How you show up in the world affects everything and impacts overall success, especially work and relationships.  Cultivating greater self-awareness through therapy and self-development tools like the Enneagram creates a positive ripple effect. 

4. Generosity: Giving back through time and resources is intrinsically a selfish act if you think about it.  The practice of generosity gives an instant hit of purpose and joy if done from a place of honesty.  

5. Presence: There is no better way of fully showing up in the world than consciously awake in the present moment.  It’s the the most valuable real estate we’ll ever own.  When we practice mindful presence, we stave off anxiety (“out there” thinking) and forego nostalgia (idealizing the past).  

Bonus: Share your new success story and this exercise with a friend.  Relationships are where these beliefs are really hardwired-in!  

Love & Gratitude,

Katie