We’ve made it this far, 2023!  You’ve presented us with plenty to consider.  You’ve also invited us into a deeper level of consciousness and insight—insight about what’s really important to us.  The thing is, you’ve also put a high-powered magnifying glass up to our differences.  So much so  that the bonds of friendship, family, and beliefs are being challenged.   History has always presented us with this predicament.  

I’ve heard it in in my own life and in the lives of clients alike: there has been great heartache and hurt around dinner table discussions everywhere due  to our differences these last few years.

And yet this Thursday extends the invitation for togetherness, gratitude, and feasting.  I believe we need to be intentional about our conversations,   honoring each other’s differences and sacrificing the need to be right for  the privilege of being in relationship.  

So I thought it might be helpful to share with you a few conversation starters to keep this most unusual holiday season a gracious and enjoyable time.  We may not share idealogical beliefs, but what we do share is the human condition—flaws and all—and the need for connection and compassion.  

Here are a few conversation starters to keep us on track as you gather around the turkey:

1. What’s the most surprising thing you’ve learned about yourself in 2023? Go around the table and answer this question, keeping it in first person—make it about you and your experience—not about the  actions or beliefs of  others.

2. How will you finish strong in 2023?  What are you taking with you?  What are you leaving behind?

3. What have noticed about yourself as it pertains to your Enneagram type this year?  This is a great way to share with others a bit more about how you tick.

4. How has love operated in and through you this year? What are ways you’ve given back or championed those in need?

5. And finally, the piece de resistance, what are you most grateful for so  far this year?

Intention creates meaning.  I believe when we have meaningful gatherings, we invite more connection, more joy, and ultimately more purpose in our lives and spaces.  Whether it’s Friendsgiving or the family kind, let’s make this Thanksgiving and holiday season one to remember (in a good way ;).

Love & Gratitude,

Katie

P.S. If you’re looking to stay tethered to some enneagram-based self-care this holiday season, give yourself the gift of The Practice.