Mindfulness gives you time. Time gives you choices. Choices, skillfully made, lead to freedom. You don’t have to be swept away by your feeling. You can respond with wisdom and kindness rather than habit and reactivity.
– Henepola Gunaratana
Read MoreStay afraid, but do it anyway. What’s important is the action. You don’t have to wait to be confident. Just do it and eventually the confidence will follow.
Carrie Fisher
Read MoreI’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
Maya Angelou
I never start Christmas shopping until the week (or day) before Christmas. I know, ludicrous. I literally have an emotional and mental block against starting any earlier. Call it procrastination, call it laziness, call it stupid, call it whatever you want— I’m cool with it. I love a hard deadline and have always been drawn to excitement and adventure with a heavy dash of adrenalin. Practical and organized are not typically words people use to describe me, quite the contrary actually. Lead with vulnerability, right? I’m also very cool with that.
Read MoreYou can kiss your family and friends good-bye and put miles between you, but at the same time you carry them with you in your heart, your mind, your stomach, because you do not just live in a world but a world lives in you.
-Frederick Buechner
I’m not sure if it’s the fall weather encroaching or the fact that I’m becoming more nostalgic with age, but something has been at the forefront of my heart and mind as of late and I can’t seem to shake it. I don’t want to shake it. It’s beautiful, complex, frustrating, exhilarating, heartbreaking, fun, weird, grounding, dangerous, and safe all at once.
Read MoreThat old saying, how you always hurt the one you love, well it works both ways.
-The Narrator ‘Fight Club’
Here we are, back with our third and final role this week: the persecutor. Quickly, I want to recap our entire journey through the Victim Triangle with a little visualization exercise. It’s easy and will put some skin around this big dysfunctional yet powerful dynamic we have examined for the past three weeks. Driving not recommended while doing this exercise.
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